I've been following the drama in AWARE. I've spoken to my friends about my disdain to the Christian fundies. Somehow, people will ignore the word fundie and assume I am against Christianity itself. While I don't really believe in Christianity, I have nothing against it. I have nothing against the belief of the fundies even. What I am against is only the way that the fundies try to get everyone to follow their belief.

I can understand their motive. They think we are heading to our destruction. Being the chivalrous heroes they are, they want to save us from ourselves and hence have us follow them on the path to salvation. I can accept that they try their hardest to convince me. But to force their belief on me is something I frown upon.

Anyway, I've digressed. Back to AWARE. I think this AWARE issue is going to be a significant event in future history books. This is going to be a turning point to our society, though I am not sure which direction. Much has been said of Singaporeans being too much of a procrastination type. We can complain about many a thing about the way our country is done, and yet not lift a finger to do anything about it. We can witness a wrong happen in front of our eyes and not do anything. Leave it to the authorities. But in the AWARE EGM, you see 1400+ people pay $40 and sat through several hours to support a cause they believe in. And the cause in my opinion is a noble 1. So does that mean Singaporeans are starting to come out of their shells?

Or it may go other way. The fundies, after been ousted, have gone underground. They have sent complain letters to MOE to cancel AWARE's sexual education to schools. They have attacked Siew Kum Hoong's role in the AWARE EGM. They are even circulating false info to do a character assasination on him as he's trying to go for a 2nd term as NMP. I have a very big problem about the latest incident. It has gone so bad that Siew has gone to the police. A libel suit is hanging in the air. While I agree that the line has been crossed, and that he's every right to correct the injustice done to him, I think this is going to muddy the water somewhat. Long has there been complains about our ruling party use of the libel suit to destroy oppositions. The lack of decent opposition politicians is partly blamed on this issue. People had hoped that such libel suits be stopped. Let there be free speech they say. Now, 1 of the proponent of free speech is possibly going to use libel suit on his opponent. The line is crossed, but where is the line? Whose line? Could be a can of worms we are opening. If Siew do nothing, then it's going to get worse for him. I sure hope it's me thinking too much about these.

Love and Commitment

They say marriage is a lifelong commitment. They also say tht marriage is the destination for 2 person in love. By extention, I take that to mean that the destination for 2 person in love is to give commitment to each other. To promise each other that you will be with them forever.

I used to not believe in commitment and promises in Love. By that, I don't mean that I am a player. I do not belief in the "No giving up the forest for the tree" shit either. It's not that I am incapable of giving commitment, but it's that I do not believe that commitment is neccessary. If you really love someone, then you won't do things to hurt him/her. For simplicity, I'll use the female form when I am talking about love interests. No more him/her or he/she. Just plainly, her or she.

Anyway, I was saying that if you love someone, then you won't hurt her. Not on purpose anyway. And if you do, it's because you think it's better for her. Unless You have a change of heart that is. If that happens, all the promises in the world count for nothing. Why would you want to keep someone who don't love you by your side? What's the point? And all the promises in the world will not be able to prevent your loved 1 from having a change of heart. It just happen, whether they meant it or not.

So what's the "used to not believe" part in my statement about? Do I have a change of heart or do I now believe that promises and commitment is a necessary evil? Love is too unpredictable and too abstract a concept to grab firmly. No matter how strongly you feel for someone this moment, the next moment may have you getting second thoughts. I've seen couples very much in love, but the feeling die out over time. I've seen someone walk away from his wedding because he he met someone that sweep him off his feet, only to realise that the wife he left behind at the altar is actually his true destiny. I've also seen a faithful husband fell in love with another woman, but chose to stay with his wife and put a lid on what is possibly his true love. I've also heard many people telling me there's no perfect person for you. You have to make do with the nearest match you come across and make the most out of it. Walking away at the "next best option" that crosses your path is not going to get you far. Because the "next best option" may not be the best option after all. And even if it is, you have a certain moral obligation, responsibility to your current choice.

So what is more important?
1. There's no point staying together if your heart is not there
2. I'll be with you through thick and thin, no matter what happens

There's probably no good answer. I used to chose 1. Now the line has shifted to somewhere in between. Where exactly the line is at will only be revealed when I come across it. I hope I don't.